The best therapy you can give yourself is to accept yourself as you are.
You are not the person you once were.
Your personality is not set in stone. You are not set in stone. You can change.You are not the person you used to be. You have changed and you are still changing. From day to day your needs, wants and thoughts change.
By recognising that you are ever evolving is liberating, you are not a rigid unchanging core of being, you are a kaleidoscope of humanity.
Facing down my fifties I look into the mirror and see a woman who has become whole.
I no longer believe in fatal flaws or quick fixes.
My happiness depends on my mental state rather than my physical looks. A bad haircut doesn’t ruin my day and I can leave the house without makeup now, something that I would never have done 10 years ago.
I never want to re-visit my youth, that obsessive preoccupation with appearance and how to catch a man, ugh.
I haven’t got the face of a beauty but I have got the face that is mine, a face that I have grown into, a face that I have earned through my experience of life.
As a young woman I used to have dreams and fantasies and lust after good looking men. Now I may catch a man’s eye but I do not confuse my fantasies with my immediate needs and wants.
I appreciate who I have become. I used to regret that some of the choices that I had made in my life were the wrong ones. Now I have moved on, with the help of therapy, from regret to an acceptance of who I am, why I did what I did and why I have turned out the way that I have.
Your past matters but it does not fix your future forever.
Acceptance is the key to your happiness and peace of mind today and tomorrow.
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