Maybe depression has been a constant in your life, it comes and goes?
Can you remember a significant event in your life that happened prior to your first attack of depression?
Is there a pattern to your depression?
What is happening in your present life that might be triggering your depression?
Are you completely unaware about why you are depressed? Or do you know, deep inside, but you are afraid to go there? If this is the case, ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen if you looked at your fears? Would you feel any worse than you do now?
So many questions that need answering if you are to have any hope of dealing with your depression. Because your depression is unique to you. What would you say your depression rates on a scale of 1-10? If it is nearer to 10 then you will not be able to work on depression on your own. And will need to see a psychotherapist to help you in your questions.
” The degrees of the depressive mood are negotiated in each individual depending on what occurs between mother and infant, particularly during the time of weaning, when the infant is beginning the journey of differentiating between Me and Not Me” ( Winnicott.)
But I can tell you that depression can be conquered if it is faced full on, poked and prodded and grieved over. And when you can finally come to an understanding and an acceptance of why you are depressed, it is only then that you can let it go and get your life back on track. But this will take time and courage, and most of all courage.
I want you to look on depression as a ‘wake up call.’
I want you to look at depression as a healthy response to alerting you to the fact that all is not well in your psyche.
What do you do with a car that won’t start? You try to problem solve about what is causing the car not to start. And that is what I want you to try and do about your depression.
Four Ways to Problem Solve Your Depression
- Keep a depression diary. Write down the day your depression occurs. Write down how you are feeling. Get in touch with your feelings. Write them down.
- Begin a dream journal. Take a note pad and pen and keep it by your bedside. On waking write down immediately any dream that you can remember. Dreams come from your unconscious and can often be significant messages about what your psyche is trying to tell you.
- Question your depression, ask it where it came from? Ask it what needs to be done to get rid of it. Sometimes this may mean a self -esteem course or an assertiveness course. Sometimes it may be a childhood problem that needs to be aired. Sometimes it may mean you need a therapist to help you through the maze.
- Face your fears, don’t run from them.